Encourage them to grow but allow them to have fun and enjoy the process without getting too wrapped up in performance.
We’ve all seen the parents who are even more into the competitive side of the game than their child or even the coaches. That takes the fun out of the game for their child and those around them.
Your child may never play professional football and that needs to be ok. For those wanting to go all the way to a career in football, put into perspective the serious challenge that this is. To put that level of pressure on a child to perform as opposed to growing and having fun can be unhealthy in the long run. While Pro football is a lofty goal that few attain, it is possible, so let’s not discourage it if that is their dream (not your dream). College football is a great opportunity for them to have an education paid for through scholarships. It can be extremely difficult to let go and let them decide what to pursue, especially when it is not what you want them to do, but they are a different person with different interests.
Don’t force them to do what they don’t want to do- It should be a good experience for them and for you.
Let your child have the freedom to play whatever sport they want. If they want to try other sports as well, that should be encouraged, since this helps them develop more.
At the end of the day, it is just a game! The kids are held to high standards of sportsmanship and behavior. Parents should exemplify this to their kids. There seems to be a stereotype of kid’s parents who act ridiculously, letting themselves act out of their emotions. They are the ones shouting at the coaches, referees, even their own child from the stand.
While it can be hard to stay calm and positive when a game is not going well, It can ruin the experience for everyone when there is a parent shouting at the coaches & referees or even at their own child. Your child is here to grow at the end of the day. Winning and losing are important, but certainly not the most important thing. Focus on what your child wants and needs.
Grown adults behaving poorly is just awkward for everyone at best, so have fun and be a good sport! It’s great to be into the game and want your child to play, but they just want to know that you’re there to support them, so stay positive and cheer them on! If you get frustrated or feel the need to shout some “helpful” advice to an official, child, or another parent, take some time to cool down. It would be a great time to go grab some concessions, a jacket, or just take a walk until you cool off. You can always talk to people once you are collected and can be positive but a game is not worth ruining other people’s day.
It can be extremely embarrassing for a child when their parent behaves poorly. It can also be harmful for the child if the parent behaves poorly toward the child. Your child will likely already beat themselves up about their mistakes in these high pressure settings, so remember that you are there to support your child and help them grow. That means staying positive and encouraging. This may be encouraging them when they’re feeling down and positively coaching them or being there to practice a little extra at home. No matter what it looks like, be sure to make it clear to your child that you are there for them- not a game.
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